feat: improve grouping perf in edgeless (#14442)

fix #14433 

#### PR Dependency Tree


* **PR #14442** 👈

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## Summary by CodeRabbit

* **New Features**
  * Level-of-detail thumbnails for large images.
  * Adaptive pacing for snapping, distribution and other alignment work.
  * RAF coalescer utility to batch high-frequency updates.
  * Operation timing utility to measure synchronous work.

* **Improvements**
* Batch group/ungroup reparenting that preserves element order and
selection.
  * Coalesced panning and drag updates to reduce jitter.
* Connector/group indexing for more reliable updates, deletions and
sync.
  * Throttled viewport refresh behavior.

* **Documentation**
  * Docs added for RAF coalescer and measureOperation.
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blocksuite/affine/gfx/connector/src/connector-watcher.ts

@@ -84,6 +84,8 @@ export const connectorWatcher: SurfaceMiddleware = (
     );
 
   return () => {
+    pendingFlag = false;
+    pendingList.clear();
     disposables.forEach(d => d.unsubscribe());
   };
 };